Dear Abbie - The Non-Advice Podcast
Dear Abbie - The Non-Advice Podcast
Beatrice in Modern Gear
Of course, many a woman has tried to save a man to her own detriment and without succeeding. There are excellent reasons to warn a girl against embracing such an ideal.
Abigail L. Rosenthal is Professor Emerita at Brooklyn College of The City University of New York. She is the author of Confessions of A Young Philosopher (forthcoming), which is a woman's "confession" in the tradition of Augustine and Rousseau. She writes a weekly online column, "Dear Abbie: The Non-Advice Column" along with "Dear Abbie: The Non-Advice Podcast," where she explains why women's lives are highly interesting. Many of her articles are accessible at https://brooklyn-cuny.academia.edu/AbigailMartin. She edited The Consolations of Philosophy: Hobbes's Secret; Spinoza's Way by her father, the late Henry M. Rosenthal. She is married to Jerry L. Martin, also a philosopher. They live in Bucks County, Pennsylvania. She can be reached a dearabbiesilvousplait@gmail.com.We live under the sheltering umbrellas of our worldviews. To the point where we would feel naked if we were caught in the street without them.
Beatrice in Modern Gear
“Thou “who, to bring my soul to Paradise,
Didst leave the imprint of thy steps in hell …”
So wrote Dante of Beatrice at the end of his Divine Comedy.
“The eternal feminine leads us above.”
So wrote Goethe at the conclusion of his Faust.
“Tu m’a rendu meilleurs —
ou moins mauvais.”
“You have made me a better man, or anyway less bad,” my first love affirmed, in a letter written many years after we had parted.
So dated! they say. So yesterday! they say. Such a trap for women! as they say.
In my Facebook home page, where I’m asked to give my favorite line in literature, I quote the last line of Kipling’s Kim, where the Tibetan lama believes he has redeemed the half-Indian, half-Irish youth who attached himself to the old monk.
“He smiled,
the smile of one who has won salvation
for himself and his beloved.”
Of course, many a woman has tried to save a man to her own detriment and without succeeding. There are excellent reasons to warn a girl against embracing such an ideal.
Is there anything at all to that idealized picture, for a woman? Is it all simply a delusion, top to bottom? If so, what does the real world look like — the solid reality that we should put in place of this chimera?
Of course, a fourteenth-century poet and politician like Dante and an eighteenth-century all-round genius like Goethe had to know, as we do, that such an ideal could be a woman’s undoing. The difference is that, in our time, we are told that the idealization of woman is always a snare and a delusion.
Why? Why are we told that? Is the advice to treat idealizations as poppycock good advice? Regardless of whether it is or is not the right thing to say in a particular case, why does everyone today think it is always the right advice? Feminists think that. Novelists think that. Men of science think that. Therapists think it. Why so much consensus? Why do they care so much — if some women want to idealize themselves — or some men want to see an occasional woman in that light?
Why the rush to disenchant?
Over breakfast this morning, Jerry and I, two philosophers, were talking about the difference in worldview between the Ancients and the Moderns.
For the Ancients, for instance Aristotle, the external world of matter and the inner world of human aspiration and fear, were the same world. In this sense, Dante was an Ancient. “Love,” Dante wrote, “moves the sun and the other stars.” Ideally, he thought, physics and human purposes can work in harmony.
For the Moderns, consciousness and physics occupy completely different spheres: the inner world subjective but delusive, the outer world real but indifferent to our deepest hopes and fears. What’s “real” for a modern person? The random play of bits of matter and natural forces devoid of purpose.
In his major philosophical work, Being and Nothingness, Sartre illustrates his concept of bad faith or inauthenticity by sketching a café scene where a man and woman are talking and the man puts his hand on hers. The woman pretends to ignore his hand while continuing to discuss her ideals. How inauthentic!
So what’s authentic? The interplay of blind forces, when you get down to it? “Your place or mine?”
Something is wrong with our physics, our psychology, and the rest of it.
When my father was dying, he was also communicating with me, in a silent but emphatic inner speech. It was not coming from me, and it had great authority.
Love is stronger than the laws of our physics.
Love actually does
move the sun and the other stars.